The Obner Divorce Curse Strikes Again

FT · **Posted:** Wed Oct 11, 2017 7:19 pm

discostu wrote:

Well, the adjustment to living an insecure family life and the loneliness to ensue will be the hardest to overcome

man, this was some prescient shit right here - that first year alone in my apartment was as lonely and depressing a time as I've ever experienced. really glad to have made it through to the other side...

FT · **Posted:** Wed Oct 11, 2017 7:20 pm

Yail Bloor wrote:

FT wrote:

and a trip to HOTLANTA seems inevitable

Set your defibrillator to "barbecue"

I'd still really love to do this someday...

FT · **Posted:** Thu Oct 12, 2017 5:13 pm

robotboy wrote:

im actually surprised this story has received this much negative reaction. i'm just curious what the opposers would have done if they were in my situation.

I had forgotten ALL ABOUT robotboy's story! Interesting revisiting it now given the current climate, as opposed to back in 2010.

FT · **Posted:** Thu Oct 12, 2017 5:49 pm

Dalen wrote:

a significant number of people enter a second or marriage 'on the rebound' of a first or second divorce. Often the people concerned are vulnerable; they do not allow sufficient time to recover from their divorce or to get their priorities straight before taking their vows again. They enter their next marriage for the wrong reasons, not having internalized the lessons of their past experience. They are liable to repeat their mistakes, making them susceptible to similar conflicts

There is a lot LOT of truth in this. I'm not sure I'd go so far as to say if I had to do it all over again, I wouldn't have gotten married a second time - BUT, in retrospect, I do think it would have been better if I'd had a bigger gap of solo time between the two. One thing (well two, technically) is my stepkids are THE BEST - they've enabled me to have a deeper paternal connection in many ways than I've been able to have with my two children, due to the autism. I have a really great relationship with my sons - especially my youngest son, who is much more "mildly" autistic than his brother, but my stepson and stepdaughter have helped enrich my parental experience beyond what I had known before.

Cap'n Squirrgle · **Posted:** Tue Oct 17, 2017 3:52 pm

This is indeed a crazy thread. I wonder how many people have a record like this of their quick, off-the-cuff thoughts organized by topic, going back 13+ years.

FT · **Posted:** Tue Oct 17, 2017 4:01 pm

Cap'n Squirrgle wrote:

This is indeed a crazy thread. I wonder how many people have a record like this of their quick, off-the-cuff thoughts organized by topic, going back 13+ years.

I found it to be a quite interesting chronicle of that tumultuous time in my life, for sure.

wenchlette · **Posted:** Tue Oct 17, 2017 4:07 pm

I actually think only having Facebook as an outlet has lead to the decline of my online social life. I was much more free here to share more personal stuff. I hate getting even remotely personal on Facebook.

FT · **Posted:** Tue Oct 17, 2017 4:13 pm

wenchlette wrote:

I actually think only having Facebook as an outlet has lead to the decline of my online social life. I was much more free here to share more personal stuff. I hate getting even remotely personal on Facebook.

facebook really did kill this place, and I miss it so...

FT · **Posted:** Tue Oct 17, 2017 4:13 pm

actually, it's y'all I miss

wenchlette · **Posted:** Wed Oct 18, 2017 4:39 pm

FT wrote:

actually, it's y'all I miss

Cap'n Squirrgle · **Posted:** Wed Oct 18, 2017 8:47 pm

Stace is right, tho. I could be any old jerk in here, but on FB, I'm actually me. My boss liked a post, and we have tons of friends overlapping ... that's a whole different game.

wenchlette · **Posted:** Wed Oct 18, 2017 10:00 pm

Facebook is life, neutered.

ayah could get me to say things here I'd never dream of saying anywhere else.

Cap'n Squirrgle · **Posted:** Thu Oct 19, 2017 12:55 pm

What CAN'T she do

wenchlette · **Posted:** Thu Oct 19, 2017 3:28 pm

Nothing.

Sigh

ayah · **Joined:** Mon Oct 25, 2004 12:03 pm **Posts:** 6400

I’ll tell you what I can say and that is that I was fired today because I confronted someone at work, a guest, not an employee, because she called someone on my staff a ni**er bitch. My immediate supervisor is out on maternity leave. I have had no complaints about my performance for 5 years. Tons of cards and letters thanking me, etc.

This guy has had it out for me for a long time. Could it be that I know he was masterbating in the bathrooms during work hours? How do I know this? Three women told me. He went to the bathroom and forgot to turn his Bluetooth speakers off. They listened to the moans and grunts from the porn he was watching on his phone in the bathroom. No one said a word. It happened again one week later.

All three women protected him. Oh, that’s just so and so. One of these women is a self defined person of the people, always protesting everything. Again, not a word to HR.

Yeah, and I got fired.

It was fun while it was fun. Sure going to miss my staff, though.

PopTodd · **Posted:** Fri Oct 20, 2017 8:10 am

Damn.
You did the right thing. Fuck that guy.

wenchlette · **Posted:** Fri Oct 20, 2017 10:55 am

That's it. We're getting the board back together. Go forth and tell only those we want back.

Cap'n Squirrgle · **Posted:** Fri Oct 20, 2017 12:29 pm

Holy fucking shit. This makes no sense.

Cap'n Squirrgle · **Posted:** Fri Oct 20, 2017 12:30 pm

( / There should've been an "I Got Squirrgled" thread all these years to collect this stuff...)

harry · **Posted:** Sat Oct 21, 2017 6:39 pm

wenchlette wrote:

That's it. We're getting the board back together. Go forth and tell only those we want back.

Obner, at its zenith, always had some similarities with middle school. Those sitting at the goth table in the corner....

Ayah, that's nuts. Seems like there might be some legal remedy.

I've checked Obner every 8-9 months or so. Twice this week because of this thread. Facebook and the other digital tentacles of the uber-corporatist-algorithms are choking what's left of human will.

Now, can Radcliffe give us his quality pith...

OPA! · **Posted:** Sat Oct 21, 2017 7:56 pm

FT, remember when we were alone in your car and you asked me to give you a handjob?

FT · **Posted:** Mon Oct 23, 2017 6:39 pm

ayah wrote:

I’ll tell you what I can say and that is that I was fired today because I confronted someone at work, a guest, not an employee, because she called someone on my staff a ni**er bitch. My immediate supervisor is out on maternity leave. I have had no complaints about my performance for 5 years. Tons of cards and letters thanking me, etc.

This guy has had it out for me for a long time. Could it be that I know he was masterbating in the bathrooms during work hours? How do I know this? Three women told me. He went to the bathroom and forgot to turn his Bluetooth speakers off. They listened to the moans and grunts from the porn he was watching on his phone in the bathroom. No one said a word. It happened again one week later.

All three women protected him. Oh, that’s just so and so. One of these women is a self defined person of the people, always protesting everything. Again, not a word to HR.

Yeah, and I got fired.

It was fun while it was fun. Sure going to miss my staff, though.

it's just AWFUL that this happened to you! I would think this definitely calls for some form of legal intervention...

FT · **Posted:** Mon Oct 23, 2017 6:40 pm

OPA! wrote:

FT, remember when we were alone in your car and you asked me to give you a handjob?

hilarious, chris

:roll:

Evil Dr. K · **Joined:** Mon Oct 25, 2004 11:51 am **Posts:** 6245

ayah wrote:

I’ll tell you what I can say and that is that I was fired today because I confronted someone at work, a guest, not an employee, because she called someone on my staff a ni**er bitch. My immediate supervisor is out on maternity leave. I have had no complaints about my performance for 5 years. Tons of cards and letters thanking me, etc.

This guy has had it out for me for a long time. Could it be that I know he was masterbating in the bathrooms during work hours? How do I know this? Three women told me. He went to the bathroom and forgot to turn his Bluetooth speakers off. They listened to the moans and grunts from the porn he was watching on his phone in the bathroom. No one said a word. It happened again one week later.

All three women protected him. Oh, that’s just so and so. One of these women is a self defined person of the people, always protesting everything. Again, not a word to HR.

Yeah, and I got fired.

It was fun while it was fun. Sure going to miss my staff, though.

I've been fired for being too awesome loads of times. Just try to emulate The Littlest Hobo. "There's a voice, keeps on calling me. Down the road it's where I'll always be...."

FT · **Posted:** Tue Oct 24, 2017 4:00 pm

Evil Dr. K wrote:

Just try to emulate The Littlest Hobo. "There's a voice, keeps on calling me. Down the road it's where I'll always be...."

there's something indefinably comforting about that theme song

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