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You're supposed to bring a gift?

Really?

I don't understand this one bit. You celebrate the fact you're getting married? As if the wedding isn't enough of a party? Just the fact you decided to get married warrants a party with gifts. And the groom doesn't even have a real job. I'm gonna end up contributing more out of my pocket to this relationship in the next year than he will.

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Regift. I saved a bunch of my useless wedding gifts for that exact reason.

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Hmmm...I know that at bridal showers, you take a gift. But, engagement parties? I thought you just go to drink and give congrats.

I've been told that in the Mexican tradition, if you're single, you're not required to take a gift. Damen, I hearby grant you Mexican diplomatic immunity. ;)
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it is ridiculous. we made sure to put "please, no gifts" on the invites to our engagement party.
we still got some though.

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Aural Fixation Wrote:
Hmmm...I know that at bridal showers, you take a gift. But, engagement parties? I thought you just go to drink and give congrats.

I've been told that in the Mexican tradition, if you're single, you're not required to take a gift. Damen, I hearby grant you Mexican diplomatic immunity. ;)


That's what I thought, too, but a friend of mine had one and got loads of gifts. Nothing like wedding gifts, but a lot of restaurant gift certificates, Crate and Barrel stuff and picture frames. Why does everyone give picture frames?

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I've never heard of bringing gifts to an engagement party. Does it specify that on the invitation? If so, you're friends with some greedy bastards! ;)
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Aural Fixation Wrote:
Hmmm...I know that at bridal showers, you take a gift. But, engagement parties? I thought you just go to drink and give congrats.

I've been told that in the Mexican tradition, if you're single, you're not required to take a gift. Damen, I hearby grant you Mexican diplomatic immunity. ;)


Orale :wink:

Picture frame is exactly what I'm giving

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i had no idea people brought gifts to these until we had ours. even still, I was surprised that anyone did, but didn't care if they did or didn't. I wouldn't feel obligated.

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they should specify on the invite though. nothing like being left in limbo and then feeling like crap because a bunch of other people brought something and you didn't.
the whole engagement/shower/wedding gift thing is f'ed. and then you gotta do it all over again for the baby.

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they should specify on the invite though. nothing like being left in limbo and then feeling like crap because a bunch of other people brought something and you didn't.
the whole engagement/shower/wedding gift thing is f'ed. and then you gotta do it all over again for the baby.


But then only for the first baby... I get so irritated when I get invited to showers for second and third babies. Didn't they get all their baby crap at the first one???
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Damen, I hearby grant you Mexican diplomatic immunity. ;)


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It's pretty common to bring gifts to the engagement party here but if you give a decent give you usually give something very small for the actual wedding or nothing at all.

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i'm not in the mood to couch things so i don't hurt anyone's feelings.
weddings are bullshit.
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i'm not in the mood to couch things so i don't hurt anyone's feelings.
weddings are bullshit.


Absolutely but it's pretty cool getting tons of shit you only kind of need. Awesome when you recieve. Absolute bullshit when you give.

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a bottle of wine's the best gift for any occasion. get 'em some twobuckchuck.

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