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| Author: | shiv [ Tue Apr 13, 2010 3:19 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: The Obner Divorce Curse Strikes Again |
billy g Wrote: FT Wrote: MAX TARDCORE Wrote: FT Wrote: MAX TARDCORE Wrote: "exercise" haha - so very true BUT i actually did have a salad for lunch yesterday if i'm going to be back out on the market, i am going to have to drop several "A"s from my FAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAT There is a market for BBM (big, beautiful men), & not just in the gay bear scene, so don't count your present self out just yet. Damned if I know where the babes who dig the FUPA are, but... Yeah. You have potential. "beautiful" I was watching Taboo: FAT on the National Geographic channel last night. There was a segment on NAAFA - National Association to Advance Fat Acceptance. I think they have balls you can attend. Here's their website You might also want to start posting on this board Hell, maybe start another blog aimed at this new "demographic" of yours. "balls" |
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| Author: | Lrr [ Wed Apr 14, 2010 9:50 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: The Obner Divorce Curse Strikes Again |
Sorry to see this. Hopefully it's for the best. It's good to see some positive attitudes on the board. |
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| Author: | FT [ Tue Jun 08, 2010 6:07 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: The Obner Divorce Curse Strikes Again |
Tomorrow marks two months since the decision was made to get a divorce, while Sunday will (would?) mark the 18th anniversary of my wedding day. Neither seems appropriate to commemorate. The past two months have been a pretty discouraging limbo with things not having really progressed all that much from then to now. It would be nice to have some final closure and be able to move on with life, but it doesn't seem like that's necessarily imminent. I'm hoping it gets done before the kids start school again. The uncertainty weighs me down, as does the loneliness. I rationally know I won't be alone forever, but it's hard to see the eventual reality of that right now. I'm not overwhelmingly depressed, but I sure as hell ain't happy. Not really sure why I felt the need to post that, other than just wanting to vent and clear out some of my internalized emotions. Thanks for letting me have my little emotional barf here. I hope none of the chunks splattered on anyone. |
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| Author: | wenchlette [ Tue Jun 08, 2010 6:18 pm ] |
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Vent on, Bob. Sometimes you have to. Additionally, sometimes you have to say the same thing over and over before you feel any different / better about it (PMs welcome on my part). Or that's been the case for me at least. Then again, I've never been married, just attracted to douchey guys who don't want relationships. |
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| Author: | Prince of Darkness [ Tue Jun 08, 2010 6:20 pm ] |
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Shit bob, you don't have to apologize. It'd be a rough and pensive kind of week for anyone in that situation. |
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| Author: | timmyjoe42 [ Tue Jun 08, 2010 7:00 pm ] |
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F that Bob. Let it all out. |
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| Author: | Thee Incident [ Tue Jun 08, 2010 8:21 pm ] |
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"Serenity now!" (sorry, had to be done) Let it all out whenever you need, Bobbo. We got you. |
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| Author: | Senator LooGAR [ Tue Jun 08, 2010 11:10 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: The Obner Divorce Curse Strikes Again |
Someone find Bobbo some strange, STAT  You don't need to air it all in public, Bob, but what is your next step plan? Like, have you filed for a legal divorce? Plans for who gets the house/kids, etc? In any situation like yours, there is NO SUBSTITUTE FOR ACTION. Even taking a one day trip by yourself somewhere could be the catalyst to make your move and make it work. |
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| Author: | toots [ Tue Jun 08, 2010 11:20 pm ] |
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it sucks for a long time dude. then it gets better. lots better. you have the toots guarantee |
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| Author: | Dalen [ Tue Jun 08, 2010 11:38 pm ] |
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timmyjoe42 Wrote: F that Bob. Let it all out. 
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| Author: | Dalen [ Tue Jun 08, 2010 11:41 pm ] |
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Senator Lou Garra Wrote: In any situation like yours, there is NO SUBSTITUTE FOR ACTION. Even taking a one day trip by yourself somewhere could be the catalyst to make your move and make it work. this is the best advice yet, and definitely helped me put things into perspective. i took some time out for myself, and was able to figure out and handle my decisions from that point on. Bob, do it. seriously. get away for a bit. |
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| Author: | discostu [ Wed Jun 09, 2010 12:18 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: The Obner Divorce Curse Strikes Again |
the West Texas desert is calling. Big Bend National Park. Check in to Marfa, Alpine and Terlingua on the way out. |
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| Author: | FT [ Wed Jun 09, 2010 10:33 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: The Obner Divorce Curse Strikes Again |
discostu Wrote: the West Texas desert is calling. Big Bend National Park. Check in to Marfa, Alpine and Terlingua on the way out. 
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| Author: | MontyTheMongoose [ Wed Jun 09, 2010 10:53 am ] |
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discostu Wrote: the West Texas desert is calling. Big Bend National Park. Check in to Marfa, Alpine and Terlingua on the way out. I am trying to imagine Big Squat Bob on mushrooms. NITEMARE FUEL! |
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| Author: | Stone [ Wed Jun 09, 2010 11:59 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: The Obner Divorce Curse Strikes Again |
FT Wrote: Tomorrow marks two months since the decision was made to get a divorce, while Sunday will (would?) mark the 18th anniversary of my wedding day. Neither seems appropriate to commemorate. The past two months have been a pretty discouraging limbo with things not having really progressed all that much from then to now. It would be nice to have some final closure and be able to move on with life, but it doesn't seem like that's necessarily imminent. I'm hoping it gets done before the kids start school again. The uncertainty weighs me down, as does the loneliness. I rationally know I won't be alone forever, but it's hard to see the eventual reality of that right now. I'm not overwhelmingly depressed, but I sure as hell ain't happy. Well, Bob, my separation has been a month and I feel the same way as you do. We are still in limbo on living arrangements, and it is hard for me to get used to not seeing my 3 year old daughter much at all now. Plus I'm working in a town where I know no one outside of my workplace. I'm not happy either, and I don't know what the answer is besides time (or maybe hookers). |
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| Author: | FT [ Wed Jun 09, 2010 12:03 pm ] |
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Stone Wrote: Well, Bob, my separation has been a month and I feel the same way as you do. We are still in limbo on living arrangements, and it is hard for me to get used to not seeing my 3 year old daughter much at all now. I am thankful for still getting to be with my kids during all this. |
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| Author: | discostu [ Wed Jun 09, 2010 12:58 pm ] |
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TOBY Wrote: discostu Wrote: the West Texas desert is calling. Big Bend National Park. Check in to Marfa, Alpine and Terlingua on the way out. I am trying to imagine Big Squat Bob on mushrooms. NITEMARE FUEL! Surprisingly, I didn't mention hallucinogens this time. I know who I'm dealing with: Car or hotel with working A/C unit, a lot of water and some solitude in a place that might help clear the mind... why the hell not? |
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| Author: | billy g [ Wed Jun 09, 2010 3:52 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: The Obner Divorce Curse Strikes Again |
Limbo sucks. Once you decide to make changes in your life, you want to get the details figured out and executed as soon as you can. That said, you probably want to figure out how to handle all this in a way that's least traumatic for your kids. The other piece of advice i'd have is don't just mope. You're gonna be sad, you're gonna feel sorry for yourself, and there's a lot that you're going to miss. That's a given. There's increased freedom though too. Make sure you treat yourself right and do things just for ol Bobbo -- things that you couldn't do as family man Bobbo. Buy somethings that you wouldn't have been able to justify before -- they need not be big ticket items -- just something that brings you some happiness - an upgrade on your beer or whiskey, a better stereo, an autographed Hollywood Henderson jersey, whatever it might be. Plan some weekends away - seeing or doing things you'd always wanted to. You have to balance the negative with some positives. |
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| Author: | FT [ Wed Jun 09, 2010 3:53 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: The Obner Divorce Curse Strikes Again |
billy g Wrote: Once you decide to make changes in your life, you want to get the details figured out and executed as soon as you can. This is EXACTLY where I'm coming from on this. |
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| Author: | FT [ Wed Jun 09, 2010 3:55 pm ] |
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billy g Wrote: an autographed Hollywood Henderson jersey Awesome. |
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| Author: | billy g [ Wed Jun 09, 2010 3:57 pm ] |
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FT Wrote: billy g Wrote: an autographed Hollywood Henderson jersey Awesome. I thought you'd like that. Just be careful not to get too many chipolte stains on it or its value will go down. |
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| Author: | FT [ Wed Jun 09, 2010 3:58 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: The Obner Divorce Curse Strikes Again |
billy g Wrote: FT Wrote: billy g Wrote: an autographed Hollywood Henderson jersey Awesome. I thought you'd like that. Just be careful not to get too many chipolte stains on it or its value will go down. No kidding. Just with the existing residue alone, do you have any idea what the street value of that jersey is??? |
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| Author: | timmyjoe42 [ Wed Jun 09, 2010 4:27 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: The Obner Divorce Curse Strikes Again |
You meant to say the value would go "up" with the Chipotle stains, right? |
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| Author: | bluejayway [ Thu Jun 10, 2010 3:02 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: The Obner Divorce Curse Strikes Again |
Man, dude, I just saw this. I'm sorry it came to that, and hope it works out as well as can be expected, maybe even a little better. |
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| Author: | FT [ Thu Jun 10, 2010 4:11 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: The Obner Divorce Curse Strikes Again |
bluejayway Wrote: Man, dude, I just saw this. I'm sorry it came to that, and hope it works out as well as can be expected, maybe even a little better. Thanks, Shel. |
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