so you don't play her any VU? I tried playing my fiance Velvet Underground (69) and it was a bust. She did however like Zappa's 'Apostrophe' so who knows.

Like I said above though, like Dalen said, if you have equally as strong tastes in seperate music, you can bounce stuff off one another. I cannot tell you how many bluegrass/old time music albums I've been turned onto since I met Sam. She is as well versed in it as I am in other genres.

She's actually okay with a fair bit of VU, exceptions being stuff like 'The Black Angel's Death Song' or 'Sister Ray'. Despite my enjoyment, I can't blame her really. Like Radcliffe noted, some of this stuff is just really great and you can't deny that.

even worse is "i listen to everything" because they certainly do not.

my sister doesn't seem to care for music. she sometimes claims to not even like it. she says she really only listens to music at the gym and only because it's a steady beat. i made her a mix last month for her birthday and she said she liked it, but then commented that her friends loved it and she didn't quite get it.

as for the original question, it's never played too much of a factor with me. most of the girls i've dated have at least enjoyed music, but i wouldn't say any were serious about searching it out. and it was certainly never a key factor in dating them. they like that i enjoy making mixes and often have new music around, but none have immersed themselves in it more than they had been before we dated. although, i do remember one girl actually getting mildly upset with me because she'd never heard many of the bands on a mix i'd made for someone on this board and she thought it was my responsibility to, i don't know, like, tell her about every band that i'd ever heard, even if i only had one mp3 by them.

i would date someone with radically different tastes, but obviously not someone who constantly hated on my favorite bands.

Jen sees my love for music as a talent for what is indeed tasteful, and heralds me when something I triumphed prior to any acknowledgement as great, saying things like "Chris said this was great, he's really got taste, " but largely sees my interest in music and such as a "hobby" that she does not shae, but enjoys the benefits of...
she recently redid the menus and included
"music director: Chris Eager" under my title as owner and hers as chef...

...which is exactly what i was trying to say. i absolutely respect their right NOT to like what i like. but i'd expect them to respect the fact that i love <insert band name here> as well.

love is more important than anything. however, before i fell in love with anyone, it'd be someone i have common interests with.
blue milk and i discovered our parallel music tastes after we started dating.
and it's great.

None whatsoever. Wife can't stand 95% of my "stuff". I can't stand 100% of hers. Our relationship isn't based on music.

I thought my wife and I had similar tastes in music when we met 14 years ago. Turns out she was just trying to impress me. Oh, well. She's great in many other ways. Music's just one thing.

I mentioned it several times, but my wife doesn't really like music at all. Any music. She owns three cd's. The Judd's Greatest Hits, R. Kelly Chocalote Factory, and Frank Sinatra The Repise Years. And she never plays them. But I love it that way.

My girl enjoys my music and likes that I hook her up.

And aside from some of the "girlie" shit that she likes like Sara McLachlan, and some of the weirder shit I like, we pretty much like the same shit.

If you go about looking for someone perfect, you'll never find them.

If you have a set of criterion, no one will live up to them.

Coming from someone who never really believed in love, believe, open yourself to all the possibilities of life, and you will be happier.

(Just make sure she's rich)

N/A. I only get a boner for deaf chicks.

i give all kinds of stupid answers for this, including the ones you've mentioned. i never know what to say.

while my tastes aren't quite as eclectic as some of the people here, i do listen to a lot of different stuff and my 'favorites' tend to change from week to week, sometimes daily. most of what i listen to could probably be lumped into the indie category, but the majority of the people who ask me this question aren't familiar with the term, and because i would feel like an asshole trying to define it i try to avoid the term altogether


just curious- how do you all answer this question?

yeah, I'm just finding this out about my fiance. She's apparently truthfully into the early nineties indie that was the soundtrack for our courtship, but she's nowhere near as open to new things as she let on. We still listen to the same old decade-old stuff together, tho I sneak in the newbies from time to time.

well, i guess i never know how to answer either.

i do say things like: i like everything.
then i'll go on to name stuff.

but i ALWAYS at least sound passionate about my answer.

i was talking more about the people who are just straight up blase about the whole topic of music. i just don't get that.

I just answered this question and it's difficult to do so.

I just usually attempt to define genres.

My answer is usually "I'm all over the map," followed by "Here's what I have today..." or "Here's what I've got in my car...".

I used to be super picky and pretty much feel like Red.

JB and I share much of the same tastes. Except for a few things here and there. But we never make fun of each other for them.

For instance, the last few weeks or so I've only wanted to listen to happy, poppy, mellow stuff and found myself dragging out my old Sarah McLachlan and stuff like that and almost contemplated buying the new Gwen Stefani(which is funny cause I generally can't stand her). All of this prompted a couple people to say they think I'm having a girl. haha

Josh just laughed at me a couple times and then accepted that's just me being hormonal right now and needing things "happy" around me.

Which is funny cause when I was pregnant with Charlie I listened to a LOT of Bowie. No wonder he likes him now.

But four-five years ago I was picky as hell about who I dated because of my music obsession.

again that probably describes my typical response = :shrug: i dunno, lotsa stuff i guess

music discussions make me incredibly uncomfortable for some reason

probably because the One time i used 'EP' in a sentence i was considered pretentious and snobby

what have you done with the senator?

if you could only see the Christmas Card I got........I have no idea what they did with him or who this imposter is.

i think of cultural taste the same way that i think of beauty.

it doesn't have to be perfect, but it has to turn me on.

about 75% of my and the girl's tastes lapse. But that other 25% of hers...ugh.

I agree. And I don't think this is really a question about music as much as it is about common ground in all aspects of life.

And I also agree with what Radcliffe mentioned earlier. Mrs. Dawg & I have a LOT of stuff that the other person wouldn't listen to ( for example...her=Jackson Browne, me=KISS ) , but I think the key is that neither of us listens to out-&-out crap. And I mean "crap" in the "look - I just bought the new N'Sync album" way.

My husband and I met through working at the college radio station and him joining up with my crew to see Fugazi. So suffice it to say, for the most part, we have the same musical interests. He does tease me mercilessly for liking Duran Duran though, but I kinda expect that from everyone these days! Plus he has a vicious sense of humor, which is part of the reason I love him.

He did turn me on to a lot of more obscure punk/classic rock stuff, and I've turned him on to a few things since we've been together. But no, I don't think our relationship is based on whether we like the same music.