a promise ring? wtf? dude, you can go get a cubic zirconia and some sterling silver and it's all good--your girl will be totally fucking understanding. Not everybody rolls like Yail with platinum and a fucking top grade rock.


On the contrary, My girlfriend while not high maintenance nore very demanding has asked that I get her a white gold ring with a diamond when we get engaged, that is what the promise ring is. She just uses this as one of the ways to bust my balls about something. If I went out and got her a crappy ring and we had a lame proposal date, she'd be more pissed at me than she would be if I was actually dragging my feet on the engagement.
She's kind of classic, so she wants me to ask her parents before I get a ring. While she occassionally shows me some ring she'd like, she doesn't drag me into jewelry stores and doesn't actually want to pick it out. I've known a few girls like that.

I ain't hatin' bro, I'm just truthin: And YOU need to talk to her parents, not her.

I plan on talking with her parents, both our parents are counting the days, although her parents aren't really happy about helping her pay for alot of stuff. My mom is aching for grandkids, so there is alot of pressure on me.

Let me get you a vasectomy for christmas.

To give you an idea of the projected size of a "Mini-Loog," scientists have estimated that approximately one Squirrgle equals the second trimester Loog fetus.

I'm really confused by this. Your girlfriend pressures you to ask her to marry you? And this is okay with you? And the real question is: do YOU want to get married?

And sorry, pressure from parents or not, this is your life you're talking about. Don't make decisions based on what other people want.

btw, maybe I'm non-girly this way but...
- husband and I dated for four years before marriage proposal (and when he did ask, I thought he was joking-- and he did ask my parents before he asked me)
- husband did not have engagement ring to give me when he asked (nor promise ring), I got it later, and we shopped together, i.e. I did not give a laundry list of items that had to be present on the ring. He chose the grade (which is top notch I might add), and I chose the setting/cut.
- even though it sounds completely negative, a phrase that comes in handy for me is "expectations are resentments under construction."

Dana's pretty much the perfect woman. I'm guessing the percent of females who share her refreshingly practical approach has a decimal followed by many zeros before the first "1" makes an appearance.

Thanks, Bob, but I gotta disagree witcha...I ain't perfect by any means. My husband can surely attest to that!

Let's just say "in theory." (haha)

Your philosophies are to be applauded, is all I'm sayin'.

I would like to echo this statement....



heh heh

that's great news
congratulations!



that's how exciting this is.

I know you, dickhead. Congrats anyway . Building businesses, getting married an' shit.... Who's taking over the MONGER throne?

Yeah, i guess i coulda mentioned it to you, Stewie. We haven't scraped residue in a filthy bathroom stall in a month of Sundays though, bro. We need to catch up, yo.

someone please explain the talk to the parents first thing. i really do not understand this. at all. really. it does not compute. why would someone who wants to marry me talk to them? i'm not even being facetious.
my head is tilted off to the side like a puppy.

from my point of view: I'm marrying your daughter; you are paying big bucks for the wedding. It's your little girl. I am a gentleman. Etc.

Haha!! Try explaining THIS to the new in-laws!

yeah, but did you ask them if you could marry her? did you warn them? i'm sure if you (and i don't mean you personally) guys are going to get married, they've met you, you've hung out with them a bit...they know you. what do you say?

wouldn't it make more sense for the two of you to announce it to them? and it's always the guy asking the girl's parents, right?

i did it because i think that it's kind of a quirky tradition that i like. also shows respect to peoples that are effectively your fam now.

Congrats Chris. Best wishes to you 2.

That's kinda how I see it too. You're paying respects to the parents by asking. It may seem antiquated now, but it is the gentlemanly thing to do. As for second marriages? All bets are off!

All you boys are gettin' all kindsa domesticated. Congrats, Chris!!

As a crabby feminist, I'm on the side that says asking the ladys parents is bowing down to the property transfer notion of marriage. If that's what y'all see it as, I am filled with contempt; if not, I respectfully suggest that the tradition is deeply icky.

Also, I'm ideologically opposed to diamonds.

<--- no fun, yeah yeah

And hey, congrats

congrats, chris.

i wish that i'd phrased it this way when i talked to him. unfortunately, he seemed more concerned that she'd be able to eat.

Hey, she's a grownup. Old enough to marry, old enough to dumpster dive in a pinch.