couplekiller Wrote:
Well, yes, people make mistakes, pretty big ones in fact, and i agree with you fully that it's better to look past them than to hold a grudge, but nobody chooses for their condom to break, or for their pill not to work
But the thing is, there life is full of risks and returns. Condoms and the pill have an inherent risk. There is a responsibility factor there, other than just doing as you please.
In order to reduce some of that risk however, we should make a concerted effort not only to educate the kids of these risks, but also provide tools to lessen the risks. The IUD is highly successful, especially in Europe, but lingering fears of cervical cancer in the 1970s, fears that are not applicable today thanks to technology and testing, have made it pretty undesirable in the U.S. I also believe that RU-486, the so-called "morning after pill", should be made available over the counter, without a physician's prescription.
couplekiller Wrote:
or for their partner/families/religion/government to abandon them when they need them at such a serious time as an unwanted pregnancy, so i disagree with you there.
This is a big problem. This is a failing of society to take care of its own. Ideally, I would like to see real life counseling and guidance programs especially for pregnant teens that would help them carry to term and have the baby adopted.
Churches genuinely concerned about their communities could pull this off, if only they could put down the politics and take on the purpose. I wouldn't be surprised if some churches had a successful program on a small scale. Without preaching or judging or making these women feel bad about their decisions, they could show the compassion and caring needed to show them that
being pregnant is not the end of the world, even though it may so at the time. Parents, if possible, should also be involved to aid their children, but again, I know this is not always plausible. But to allow (again, I'm not advocating force) this young woman to carry the child to term can change her worldview on herself and her community.
I think that when a woman has terminates an unwanted pregnancy, we have faltered in some way. Some of these are unavoidable, but others are not. We as a people can benefit from a reduction in abortions, even if only a reduction of 15% per year. Seventeen year-old girls don't want to be mothers, and their chances of success are limited in that arena as well.
couplekiller Wrote:
Yes i do think that abortion can be considered a right, because you have to remember what it actually is, and that's a medical procedure. i hold medical care to be a human right, and i see it as a fundamental necessity. actually exectuing that goal is difficult here in america, but i think Roe v. Wade is a step in the right direction.
Another point is that abortions bring along truckloads of emotional baggage, unlike most medical procedures. I've known more than a few women who have undergone the procedure, and they carry a weight that doesn't come along with having your tonsils removed or being circumcised. A very good friend of mine had to call of a marriage because he and his ex-fiancee never could re-visit the time before their abortion.