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Do any of you have bad experiences with this?

I've been really good friends with this girl for a few years, we hang out together all the time. She's been with the same boyfriend since i've met her, but she broke up with him.

I know she used to like me before we were friends, but I don't know whether she still does or not. We always talk about girls im interested in etc. which could be awkard later on, since we both still see these other girls all the time. I don't know, I sorta know it's a bad idea, but in some ways i don't care.


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Let her know how you feel. Two of my good friends, after being friends for several years and dating for a while after that, recently became engaged.

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Just make sure you know one hundred percent if she likes you that way first. Because even if it seems like she does, and even if she acts likes she does, and even if you two are all alone and she's half naked and you try to kiss her and she's not interested, then it becomes awkward.

I'm still dealing with the consequences.


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I can't imagine being involved with someone I haven't been friends with first.


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I know she used to like me before we were friends, but I don't know whether she still does or not. We always talk about girls im interested in etc. which could be awkard later on, since we both still see these other girls all the time. I don't know, I sorta know it's a bad idea, but in some ways i don't care.


If she liked you at one point, she probably still has some intrest. Who cares if it's a bad idea, if she's hot, ask her out

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Sure i'm young, but I feel like I can add to this as well.

Two years ago, MNSAA and I started dating. I considered him my best friend before we started dating, and I think that's what has kept this going so long. Sure we're together and I care about him a whole lot but really when it comes down to it he's still just my best friend. I think that if you have that strong of a relationship before you begin dating someone I think it could go either way, with being pretty awkward or if you have a strong friendship but you both have strong feelings for one another, really what could go wrong?

As for talking about other girls youre interested in, it shouldn't matter anymore if you get into a relationship with her because she should know that if you are with her then you're obviously no longer interested in the other girls. Unless you're a dick and you keep your options open while in a relationship with a girl.

Yeah, but anyways my mom used to be really concerned about me dating around to see what else is out there. I could not give a shit about what is out there, I personally would not enjoy dating around. Being close friends with someone and taking it from there has worked out for me sofar, so I think it's the better alternative to dating someone you do not know.

I don't know, I say go for it if the timing is right, and if you really care about her enough. Don't hold yourself back because you may waste something that could eventually be really great.

I tried to keep from talking about my own experience too much, but I felt like I could relate to what you were talking about so I hope you understand what i'm trying to express from my personal experiences.


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Just show it to her, splates.

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Senator <> LooGAR Wrote:
Dalen Wrote:
friends + alcohol = unreal sex


Just show it to her, splates.


yeah, you can't go wrong here.

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Senator <> LooGAR Wrote:
Dalen Wrote:
friends + alcohol = unreal sex


Just show it to her, splates.


I'm gonna have to second both of these.

Sort out the mess (oh, and it will most certainly be a mess) in the morning.

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Does she do anal?

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Do any of you have bad experiences with this?

I've been really good friends with this girl for a few years, we hang out together all the time. She's been with the same boyfriend since i've met her, but she broke up with him.

I know she used to like me before we were friends, but I don't know whether she still does or not. We always talk about girls im interested in etc. which could be awkard later on, since we both still see these other girls all the time. I don't know, I sorta know it's a bad idea, but in some ways i don't care.

Has she ever said anything like "you'll make a really good boyfriend for someone someday"? Because if she has, cross her off your list. Does she discuss really private things with you? I have always found that the more open women are with you, the less likely they are to see you as a possible future for them. So if you're hearing about her sexual conquests, habits, interests, etc., cross her off your list. No matter how strong you think feelings between you two are, she's already passed that window of opportunity where something could happen, and you are now her girlman - the guy who she can talk to like you're another girlfriend of hers. There's no going back from there. Trust me.

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Make sure she's not on the rebound before you declare your interest.


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Senator <> LooGAR Wrote:
Dalen Wrote:
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Just show it to her, splates.


Casually though. Rock some high cut, Henry Rollins style shorts, lean back on the couch, and let the milk worm just kinda flop out the side.

She'll be yours, all yours.


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Friendship is an essential basis for a relationship, IMO.

If she only just broke up with her b-f, I'd say take it easy, you don't want to mess up your heart and your friendship by being the rebound guy. You've been friend with her all this time, might as well take it slow for the time being.

If it's going to happen let it happen naturally.


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Friendship is an essential basis for a relationship, IMO.

If she only just broke up with her b-f, I'd say take it easy, you don't want to mess up your heart and your friendship by being the rebound guy. You've been friend with her all this time, might as well take it slow for the time being.

If it's going to happen let it happen naturally.


Follow this advice and the closest you'll get is writing her name on your hand before you jerk off.

Get in there. Talk to her. You've obviously got the in. Be bold. Use alcohol for sure.

Sorry Polly, I still think ur swell and all.... :wink:

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polly six Wrote:
Friendship is an essential basis for a relationship, IMO.

If she only just broke up with her b-f, I'd say take it easy, you don't want to mess up your heart and your friendship by being the rebound guy. You've been friend with her all this time, might as well take it slow for the time being.

If it's going to happen let it happen naturally.


Follow this advice and the closest you'll get is writing her name on your hand before you jerk off.

Get in there. Talk to her. You've obviously got the in. Be bold. Use alcohol for sure.

Sorry Polly, I still think ur swell and all.... :wink:


I guess so. I'm actually not trying to preach wishywashiness... I'm speaking from the experience of having been a girl on the rebound.

Male friend who you feel comfortable with, who you feel understands you, who is nice = (whether consciously or not) great rebound material.
Especially if they just move in there right away ready to be comforting, etc.

My theory is that if you wait awhile you'll get her when she's actually ready for something real. Assuming that's what you want.

i.e.

rushing = 2-3 months of fun, being considered an easy option for the time being until a real option comes along (i.e. being used).

waiting awhile = being actually considered a real "option".

Not necessarily the case in this situation, but I think it's often like this with women on the rebound.


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Thanks guys im still pretty undecided. I think i'll just get drunk and then decide.


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You won't learn til you try. Me, the person in question and I basically didn't speak to each other for about two years, but we're pals again now and have been for ages. Ah youth.


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