Have you gone out with an unattractive person?

Aural Fixation · **Posted:** Sat Nov 04, 2006 6:28 pm

Have you ever been attracted to a person who was physically not your type, but something about him / her intrigued you enough to want to go out with? Did it move further than just a date? Or did you move in the direction of keeping the relationship on a a platonic level -- just someone to hang out with and talk to?

I've recently found myself attracted to two guys, both of who are nothing to speak of in the Looks Department, but their way of being have me highly intrigued to pursue more. I'm sitting here questioning myself:

a) Am I solely looking to get laid and this is a nice temporary fix?
b) If a relationship were to form, would I be 'forgiving' enough to overlook the physicial unattraction? (Yes, I know I'm not all that in the Look Dept either)
c) Is he hot enough in bed that I would forget all about "b"?
d) Am I just being stupid, relax and go with the flow?

I know, I know...I too question my sanity sometimes.

alongwaltz. · **Posted:** Sat Nov 04, 2006 6:30 pm

I've never really been attracted to someone unless I was physically attracted to them as well. I almost wish it would happen. It makes me feel kind of shallow that I've only ever been interested in attractive people.

But the flip side might be that, if I am attracted to someone, I find myself thinking they're really attractive, whether they are to other people or not.

Elvis Fu · **Posted:** Sat Nov 04, 2006 6:32 pm

Not stupid, but otherwise (D). If it works, great. If not, great. What's to lose?

Cap'n Squirrgle · **Posted:** Sat Nov 04, 2006 6:41 pm

Give it time, if you haven't. People look different to you after you really get to know them

Hot chick gets hired @ your job, you drool for a week. Then over the next year you hang out at work and talk a lot, and discover that she's not really very interesting, and marvel at how you used to find her so foxy. New people come in, say "damn she's hot!" and you remember ow you used to think so too. Also works in reverse. So-so looking person turns out to be funny and nice, and the next thing you know...

wenchlette · **Posted:** Sat Nov 04, 2006 6:44 pm

Like Harley said, I've thought some non-traditionally "attractive" men were fucking sexy because I've really liked them.

jewels santana · **Joined:** Thu Nov 04, 2004 2:36 pm **Posts:** 10198

Cap'n Squirrgle Wrote:

Give it time, if you haven't. People look different to you after you really get to know them

Hot chick gets hired @ your job, you drool for a week. Then over the next year you hang out at work and talk a lot, and discover that she's not really very interesting, and marvel at how you used to find her so foxy. New people come in, say "damn she's hot!" and you remember ow you used to think so too. Also works in reverse. So-so looking person turns out to be funny and nice, and the next thing you know...

this is very true and i've never heard it said like that.
well done.

Aural Fixation · **Posted:** Sat Nov 04, 2006 6:59 pm

Here's another scenario...

"Meet" guy off internet, seems funny, you chat over several months, exchange phone numbers and get to know each other better over the phone. We never meet. My suspicion tells me the guy is married but he denies it over and over again. The chats become less and less -- I think "no big deal, it wasn't something I was gonna pursue anyway", then months later, he pops up again!

I get to know him more, we 'play' over the phone, our sporadic chats have now crossed years. Though, after about a year or so, he finally confesses that "yes, I am married, no kids". By this time, I know enough about his personal life that I happen to look him up online. The guy works in the entertainment industry and it was easy to find out which projects he's working on. Ohhhh and look, there in his bio it reads that he's married and has three kids! This further slams the door on the deal, "I ain't interested, mister!"

Fast forward to the past month -- he had been calling me daily, 2-5 times a day. It was getting to the point of harassment. I told him to stop calling me, but he persisted. By this time, his wife had thrown him out of the house and he was living alone. (You play with fire, you're gonna get burned.) After denying him over and over again...btw, did I mention that this guy is FUCKIN' HOT?!...he finally tells me that he's done, he's going to attempt to reconcile with his wife and move back in. "I'm not gonna call you anymore." I think it's a great idea! Congrats. babes, I'm glad you'll be back with your family.

Just a few minutes, he IM'd me -- "Hey, call me". I inquire how things are going, if he's moved back home. He responds with 'no not yet'. So, I make the STUPID mistake of calling him and guess who answers the phone? His wife!! Hahahahahaha! I just sat here and laughed!

Hot guys are so not worth it. Married ones even moreso.

jsh · **Posted:** Sat Nov 04, 2006 7:18 pm

Prince of Darkness · **Joined:** Mon Oct 25, 2004 11:41 am **Posts:** 11048

brains are sexy.

talent is sexy.

good conversation is sexy.

work ethic is sexy.

all four together... unstoppable.

I hardly ever find all four in what most guys would consider hott.

and yet through the years, I've found it in what alot of guys might consider cute but nothing special, and in the meantime, i'm floored.

Prince of Darkness · **Joined:** Mon Oct 25, 2004 11:41 am **Posts:** 11048

however, alot of my guy friends think d is way hott. I happen to agree for all of the aforementioned reasons and then some.

And T, i think you oughta just go and make that love connection. Maybe they're packing heat, or have an oral fixation.

Prince of Darkness · **Joined:** Mon Oct 25, 2004 11:41 am **Posts:** 11048

Aural Fixation Wrote:

Here's another scenario...

"Meet" guy off internet, seems funny, you chat over several months, exchange phone numbers and get to know each other better over the phone. We never meet. My suspicion tells me the guy is married but he denies it over and over again. The chats become less and less -- I think "no big deal, it wasn't something I was gonna pursue anyway", then months later, he pops up again!

I get to know him more, we 'play' over the phone, our sporadic chats have now crossed years. Though, after about a year or so, he finally confesses that "yes, I am married, no kids". By this time, I know enough about his personal life that I happen to look him up online. The guy works in the entertainment industry and it was easy to find out which projects he's working on. Ohhhh and look, there in his bio it reads that he's married and has three kids! This further slams the door on the deal, "I ain't interested, mister!"

Fast forward to the past month -- he had been calling me daily, 2-5 times a day. It was getting to the point of harassment. I told him to stop calling me, but he persisted. By this time, his wife had thrown him out of the house and he was living alone. (You play with fire, you're gonna get burned.) After denying him over and over again...btw, did I mention that this guy is FUCKIN' HOT?!...he finally tells me that he's done, he's going to attempt to reconcile with his wife and move back in. "I'm not gonna call you anymore." I think it's a great idea! Congrats. babes, I'm glad you'll be back with your family.

Just a few minutes, he IM'd me -- "Hey, call me". I inquire how things are going, if he's moved back home. He responds with 'no not yet'. So, I make the STUPID mistake of calling him and guess who answers the phone? His wife!! Hahahahahaha! I just sat here and laughed!

Hot guys are so not worth it. Married ones even moreso.

did you throw him under the bus? what did you say to the wife?

Chuck D · **Posted:** Sat Nov 04, 2006 7:32 pm

that guy deserves to be thrown under the bus - you should have said "hey, could you tell your husband to leave me alone?"

Prince of Darkness · **Joined:** Mon Oct 25, 2004 11:41 am **Posts:** 11048

Chuck(e)D Wrote:

that guy deserves to be thrown under the bus - you should have said "hey, could you tell your husband to leave me alone?"

... or else i'll sue the record label AND him for inappropriately touching minors.

Aural Fixation · **Posted:** Sat Nov 04, 2006 7:57 pm

I wasn't going to do this, but what the hell. It's just too funny -- I feel I've walked into an online soap opera!! There are some things that don't add up, but I'm not gonna worry over 'em. This guy was never important to me to really care.

I'm gonna take a shower while you read "A Chat With The Wife":

Quote:

Zach [12:41 PM]: you are soooo stupid
Zach [12:41 PM]: scared to talk to the wife are u
Zach [12:41 PM]: you are an on-line whore
Zach [12:42 PM]: It is sad when a woman doesn't have anything better to do but chat like a whore on-line
Me [12:43 PM]: Hi Michelle
Me [12:44 PM]: I think you and Zach have bigger problems than me being an online whore
Zach [12:44 PM]: you probably think he is someone he is not he always acts like stunt man but he is just a stupid accountant with the same name
Me [12:44 PM]: if it makes you feel any better -- I've never met your husband nor would I ever
Zach [12:45 PM]: No because we have three somes all the time just not with you kind of people
Me [12:45 PM]: I've told him repeatedly that I would never meet him
Me [12:45 PM]: I'm glad for you
Me [12:45 PM]: it doesn't mean I ever wanted to meet him
Me [12:45 PM]: I've know him online...what? I'm sure you know...4-5 years?
Zach [12:46 PM]: I know because he knows people that would be at home when needed N OT wanted are LOSERS
Me [12:46 PM]: and talked to him on the phone equal amounts of time
Zach: Call me lets chat
Me [12:46 PM]: what for?
Zach [12:48 PM]: Because I need to know from you how long and why for you did you think like all the other woman we lived in LA and that he was that stuntman that had the same wife named Michelle it is such a luck of the draw.
Me [12:49 PM]: well...for the longest time, he had an LA number
Me [12:49 PM]: it wasn't until recently that all of a sudden, he had a Las Vegas number
Me [12:50 PM]: actually, two LA numbers
Me [12:50 PM]: and then I lost 'em
Me [12:50 PM]: I rarely called him
Me [12:50 PM]: do you remember calling me on New Year's Eve?
Me [12:50 PM]: I was fast asleep and he called me drunk off his ass
Me [12:50 PM]: you called shortly thereafter
Zach [12:51 PM]: We did live there but he got fired for sexual harressment. He worked at a top cpa firm but our 2 kids were not enough for him I guess
Zach [12:52 PM]: Yes I remember calling you it was the best time of my life not you New Years
Me [12:52 PM]: As I've told Zach over and over -- I was never interested in meeting solely based on the fact that he's married
Me [12:53 PM]: even though, he lied to me for a long long time
Zach [12:53 PM]: Why do you think poeple on-line you ever tell the truth
Zach [12:53 PM]: Now can you do me a favor
Me [12:53 PM]: It's obvious the two of you have a different sort of relationship and wish you well with that
Me [12:54 PM]: because I've actually made some real life friends from online -- people who are truly honest
Me [12:54 PM]: I've never lied to Zach -- there was no need to
Zach [12:55 PM]: No but you knew he was married and didn't care even to contact me we talked on-line years ago
Zach [12:55 PM]: Did he tell you the other day he was done. When was the last time he talked to you
Me [12:55 PM]: Did you also know that he was harassing me over the past month?
Me [12:56 PM]: He was calling me daily at least 3-5 times a day
Me [12:56 PM]: quite annoying
Me [12:56 PM]: and yup, he did say he was done that he was "going to reconcile things with my wife"
Zach [12:56 PM]: When was the last time
Me [12:56 PM]: I told him that I thought it was great and very important
Me [12:56 PM]: dunno...maybe a week ago
Zach [12:57 PM]: If he was annoying but why get all caught up agian he calls you because you are the easiet we have ever found that is why I was mad we usually like challenges
Zach [12:58 PM]: Was today the first time he contacted you after saying he was done Please be honest Because we were done for our girls They are getting old enough to understand
Me [12:58 PM]: I was going to ask "why" actually
Me [12:59 PM]: check his phone records
Me [12:59 PM]: I'm sure you can find out for yourself
Zach [12:59 PM]: I donb't know when he for sure said anythimg to you
Me [1:00 PM]: I don't know -- does it really matter?
Zach [1:00 PM]: were ther messages
Zach [1:00 PM]: YES
Zach [1:00 PM]: Now for a woman to his daughters was it after the 26th of Oct
Me [1:01 PM]: What day was that?
Me [1:01 PM]: If it was a Thursday, I think it was that day
Zach [1:02 PM]: I don't know maybe the Thursday before Halloween
Zach [1:02 PM]: Please stop with him for our Daughters they know he is stupid but I don't want the to EVER be someones word WHORE
Me [1:03 PM]: what's so special about that day?
Zach [1:03 PM]: Good bye Tanis and best of luck to you Becareful.
Zach [1:03 PM]: That day was the day we ended it with everyone
Me [1:04 PM]: got it
Me [1:04 PM]: good luck
Zach [1:04 PM]: To you also
Zach [1:04 PM]: Bye
Zach signed off at 1:04 PM

ayah · **Joined:** Mon Oct 25, 2004 12:03 pm **Posts:** 6402

more drama than a lesbian softball team.

Cap'n Squirrgle · **Posted:** Sat Nov 04, 2006 8:18 pm

Ooooohhhdear god. (hugs wife)

Prince of Darkness · **Joined:** Mon Oct 25, 2004 11:41 am **Posts:** 11048

I couldn't even read that.

Aural Fixation · **Posted:** Sat Nov 04, 2006 8:32 pm

ayah Wrote:

more drama than a lesbian softball team.

I think I'd prefer to be on a lesbo softball team than deal with stupid online drama.

They've a strange relationship and they can keep me out of it. Thank goodness I never met up with him and stuck to my instincts!

shiv · **Posted:** Sat Nov 04, 2006 8:36 pm

I went on a blind date when I was like 22 or something and the girl wasn't very good looking and I could've just drove away but I went out with her for a few hours, then made up some lie about I had to help my friend with something and never called her again.

Aural Fixation · **Posted:** Sat Nov 04, 2006 8:40 pm

I went on a blind date once where the guy showed up at my door, all of a sudden had something URGENT to do and left. He later emailed me and said that it was girls like me as to why he refused to ever go on blind dates again.

Thank you. I'll just pick up my shattered self-esteem and go.

Spade Kitty · **Joined:** Mon Oct 25, 2004 11:49 am **Posts:** 4401

I'm having a really time following that IM conversation. This woman has apparently invented her own grammar rules.

jewels santana · **Joined:** Thu Nov 04, 2004 2:36 pm **Posts:** 10198

Aural Fixation Wrote:

I went on a blind date once where the guy showed up at my door, all of a sudden had something URGENT to do and left. He later emailed me and said that it was girls like me as to why he refused to ever go on blind dates again.

Thank you. I'll just pick up my shattered self-esteem and go.

jesus.
sorry.

Aural Fixation · **Posted:** Sat Nov 04, 2006 9:07 pm

Spade Kitty Wrote:

I'm having a really time following that IM conversation. This woman has apparently invented her own grammar rules.

Ha!! Whew, I thought it was just me. I had to re-read her IMs several times, pause at different spots within the IM to make certain I was understanding her correctly. Take for instance this sentence:

Quote:

Zach [12:48 PM]: Because I need to know from you how long and why for you did you think like all the other woman we lived in LA and that he was that stuntman that had the same wife named Michelle it is such a luck of the draw.

After reading it several times, I figured out what she meant to say:

Quote:

Because I need to know, from you, how long and why. Did you think, like all the other women, we lived in LA and he was that stuntman that has a wife also named "Michelle"? It was such a luck of the draw.

Freak.

DumpJack · **Posted:** Sat Nov 04, 2006 9:19 pm

Aural Fixation Wrote:

I went on a blind date once where the guy showed up at my door, all of a sudden had something URGENT to do and left. He later emailed me and said that it was girls like me as to why he refused to ever go on blind dates again.

Thank you. I'll just pick up my shattered self-esteem and go.

Holy fuck, that's just brutal. Hopefully the cosmic laws are in effect.

Prince of Darkness · **Joined:** Mon Oct 25, 2004 11:41 am **Posts:** 11048

DumpJack Wrote:

Aural Fixation Wrote:

I went on a blind date once where the guy showed up at my door, all of a sudden had something URGENT to do and left. He later emailed me and said that it was girls like me as to why he refused to ever go on blind dates again.

Thank you. I'll just pick up my shattered self-esteem and go.

Holy fuck, that's just brutal. Hopefully the cosmic laws are in effect.

Yeah, I had a similar situation a couple of times. Ain't no good. Blind dates are the pits anyways.

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