this is why no girl will ever date you

Whether your ridin the train or in Lexus-es

This is for either/or Rollies or Timex-eses

oh fuck beaten by shiv

No shit. Jesus man, have you ever even had a girlfriend?? Get over yourself.

It doesn't matter what she's into. If she's into you then she'll be most likely be interested in what you're into.

I've never dated a girl that was into music the way I am but, like Bloor, I find shit that she might like and a lot of times they do.

The only thing my girl asks for when I want to go to a show is for me to burn her some of said bands albums so she can familiarize herself with them.

The last girl I dated had near-identical taste in music to mine. It just didn't work out for other reasons.

Of past girlfriends, at least three of them had something in common with me, even if it was just a certain genre.

Only one of my ex's had radically different taste than mine and that only lasted about two weeks.

Nearly all my friends listen to the same music too. Music is involved in 80% of my life. If someone doesn't have anything in common with me musically, I'd have no idea what we would have in common. Maybe a bit of the same movies and tv shows but that's hardly enough to construct a relationship on.

I'm with polly on this. I think someone who really loves music is more likely to hear something they like in what you listen to, and your tastes could converge somewhat. But who doesn't care about music at all? I am suspicious of that person, and could never love her.

agree. taste in music is a pretty shitty basis for deciding who to date. similar taste does not mean that you're similar people. and 9 times out of 10, bad taste comes from a lack of exposure. my fiance listened to generic stoner college party bullshit when i first met her, now she loves spoon and old soul records.

You should have voiced your suspicions about my last ex.

Anyhow, yeah, this is a dumb poll. I'd rather have someone who was passionate about SOMETHING then someone who was passionless.

and seriously harley, if the girl was hot enough, you'd be too busy busting a nut to complain about her wanting to listen to vanessa carlton. If it's really a problem, get an armband for your nano, plug those earbuds in, and let Joanna Newsome get your dick hard and take you to Mordor.

DING, DING.

Someone COULD come in here and take the high road about similar life experiences, values, or backgrounds being WAY more important than taste in music...but that would just be patently absurd.

I mean, if a girl wanted an open relationship, or was an NBA groupie, or only cared about what year model your car was, all could be forgiven if she rated The Life Pursuit as her #1 rekkid of 2006, right?

What Haq and polly said. I'm sure either extreme would be annoying, but I would rather the person have at least some understanding of a music obsession.

My best relationship has been with the person I've had the least in common with musically. When I first started dating my fiancee, we didn't listen to any of the same things. Upon seeing what sort of stuff she listened to, the first thing I did was to start making mixes for her. Of course she only really liked a few things here and there on the mixes, but they were fun to do. Over time she found a few artists that she really enjoys through me, and I learned a lot more about her tastes.

Damn D. Wasn't aware of this .

Congrats man!

Is this the same girl you were with at the Olivia Tremor Control show?

Thanks, man!

And yes, she is the same. We've been together for over 4 years now.

I chose the "someone who doesn't really care for music" option. I'd rather she not listen to stuff at all rather than listen to/love crap.

I'm lucky, though - Mrs. Dawg has pretty good taste ( especially considering her background/what she grew up listening to ) , even though she's not as rabid about music as I am. But that's OK - few are.

i suspect that someone who doesn't really care about music just hasn't listened to the right albums. it would be my duty to enlighten them.


bort

np: some band you never heard of

"someone who's passionate about shitty music"

at least they're passionate about it. i can't even fathom dating someone who doesn't care for music.... in fact, i have never dated anyone who didn't care for music. it would be hard for me to because my whole life revolves around music and we'd have nothing in common.

at the very least, i'd have fun making mixes for that person and try to turn them on to good music. a few of my friends have really shitty taste in music and i've turned them on to better music then the fall out boys & hawthorne heights of the worlds. gag.

once you stop letting the music you listen to define you, and get your own personality, you wont have these problems

Sorry boys but---man who looks like Jude Law playing me a live, "all-star" version of "Perfect Day" and then explaining to me how Jethro Tull are rily worthwhile because it's social commentary, um, = only hot for about 6 months. Trust me here. (contradicting my previous statement, I know but c'mon)

eidt: oh and did I mention: not knowing who the fuck Massive Attack are, this in 2002.

Oh sorry boys---apart from being Ween fans I didn't think anyone on here fit the profile.

I just don't see how you could be in a relationship with someone who you couldn't go to concerts with, listen to music with, etc.

And not necessarily just music, but taste in movies, tv shows, etc. as well.


If you don't have that in common, what do you have in common? We could have similar personality traits, ethics, morals, and life experiences. But even if we have the same stance on abortions and voted for the same mayor, if we don't like any of the same movies or music, what are we going to do on a Friday night?

If you don't know the answer here, yr. hopeless.

And Polly, are you agreeing or disagreeing with Phil and I up there?

You'll do what the other person wants or they'll do what you want because you care about each other. Your caring about each other isn't just based on what stuff you like. And by doing stuff you wouldn't normally do, maybe doing things you wouldn't normally like, you're giving something of yourself. This can help you grow as a person and help you shift your focus from always trying to make yourself happy by doing what you want or what you're comfortable with.

It's not easy, and I can't say I'm very good at it. However, it's more rewarding than staying in my comfort zone and always just trying to home in on my own interests.

I'm more concerned about shared interests in playing sports and getting active with a girl than going to shows or fawning over the Death Unit record together. Then again, I've never dated a girl who was physically active with anything really.

um... fuck?

but seriously, how about make dinner together, go for a walk, play scrabble, start a new hobby together like photography or something, i mean jesus...

or you could sit around on friday night and scratch your balls and stare at her hungrily like a cheese burger.

You're as deep or as shallow as you let yourself be, likewise she is as interesting as you let her be to you.

Um-hum.


hehheh.