You find a shithole, scrape by, and when she graduates.................................SUGAR MAMA!

OVERRATED!

Honeymoon over so soon?

no shit, sherlock.



I'm trying to figure out what I should expect from this situation. I don't want to march in and be like, "move out" if really I should be the one moving out. I guess you just have everything already figured out. I don't.

They're superChristian.

They were friends for a few years and then around a year and a half ago, she moved to LA. This is where it gets weird. I knew that they still talked, so when she came for a visit in January, I thought nothing of it. All of a sudden they were hugging and holding hands and now they're getting married. I guess she called him up one day and was like, "I'm madly in love with you." and that was that. She moved back to Chicago last Friday and got herself a studio apartment but is always at our place.

i think the rule is that the place is yours

also "superChristian" is an oxymoron

Wow, that's pretty. Get that from one of your self help websites?

Quit being an ass. I found out last night that they set a date. Figured I'd ask around here since I've never had a similar situation, nor do I know of anyone who has. So, I'm not avoiding anything, but thanks for playing.

My roommate already tried this, didn't work.

As someone who's spend the last year living with roommates and my bf, and is now moving out with just my bf, I'd say it's probably up to him to get his own place. I mean if the place is really really his place as in he's been there much longer, has been the one responsible for it, has put a lot of work into it, etc. then maybe I'd say otherwise. Then again if "getting his own place" involves leaving you with the lease without proper notice then that's not so cool either.

In the end the main thing is that if he's the one changing the arrangements then he should be the one to bring it up with you, otherwise it kind of puts you in an awkward situation (i.e. one of having to ask us screwballs for advice about it).

Oh please g_d, yes. There's no way I'd ever want my bf and I to keep the place we're in now. Move on, move on is what I say.

The only who's "playing" here is you. Seriously, stop with the 8th grade girl passive-aggressive melodrama and forget about all this expectation supposition. Take a deep breath, and go sit down and have a friendly chat with him and find out what he wants to do now. This shouldn't be too hard, unless of course you're a basket case and have trouble talking to real people.


And next time you ask for advice from everyone, don't be so defensive.

I'm basically starting over as a 21 year old, that's why I'm so clueless about roommate etiquette. I moved from my mom and dad's house to my ex-husband's apartment and then in with my current roommate once I divorced. I've never lived alone. So, yeah, I ask a group of strangers.

He won't screw me over because that's not how he is, same with her.

Let me make this a little clearer. They announced a date, went to the gym and I haven't seen him since.

And yes, I'm defensive. I'm merely asking for advice and you're suggesting avoidance and passive-aggresiveness, etc. Can't I simply ask a question? "Has this ever happened to you? If it has happened to you, please share your experience with me." Perhaps I should've worded it differently. I'm not retarded, Rami. I know to talk to him and I know how to talk to him.

Red, its ok. He can't argue with the big boys, so he'll pick on you.

Also, have you considered just dropping a "mattress decker" and letting the situation work itself out?

Yeah, shoot me for asking a question.

What the hell is a "mattress decker"? I'm assuming it's a poo. I could drop a "couch decker" since he just spent $3K on a new couch. That might upset him more.

See, that's using your pretty little head, girlie.

Of course you're not retarded. I hope that things work out for you and your roommate situation and only wish you the best.

Well...now that you've got a 3 thousand dollar couch attached to the deal, I think you should just tell him to move the wife in.

Will you be losing any other snazzy home furnishngs?

Will he be taking the stereo? What about the TV?

you may just have to kill her

She's growing on me. I think she knows that if she fucks up, I'm going to break her goddamned legs.

My own couch is in storage. I also come from a family that LOVES handing stuff down, so that's cool.

The only stuff that I'll miss of his: Tivo, DirectTV, coffee table, sweet surround sound system. And him. It's nice to have someone to come home to, even if he does watch hockey 24/7 and make little messes everywhere.

That wasn't a jab at you. What I meant is that he should be the one taking the initiative on this because he's making the change. But failing that, you should just ask him about it.

In terms of etiquette I think it's fair to say that he should give you some pretty advanced notice in either case. My roomie told us back in December that he planned to get his own place for March 1st. And before that happened, when my bf & I were discussing getting our own place we said we'd want to give our roomies advanced notice as well.

Apart from that it's hard to give advice without knowing all the subtleties of your lease agreement, the history, how things are between you, etc.

Good luck. Changing living situations when you don't want to can be stressful (as I'm in the midle of experiencing)... but it can also end up being a change for the better.