UPDATED: Wedding Registry or San Francisco!

Yail Bloor · **Posted:** Thu Apr 05, 2012 9:41 pm

Evil Dr. K Wrote:

OK, I'll probably, wait, never, get married but even if I did I'd still find the whole idea of a wedding registry abhorrent. Why would you make your friends go out and buy off a list just cos you got married? It's like 'I'm Getting Married Therefore I Punish My Friends'.

I get that traditionally newly weds moved out of their parents houses and started a new life together in basically a bare house and it was a nice gesture for friends to contribute to the new household but that's not the case any more.

The whole modern wedding registry thing is fucking bullshit.

Again if by some miraculous set of circumstances I get married my friends only obligations will be to come to the pub and get drunk as fuck. I won't, I repeat won't, be twisting any one's arm for a fucking towel set or cutlery!

Not that I thought about it this way (but you can if it helps you to understand): You will probably almost always pay more to have someone at your wedding than you will get back in gift value. Advantage: wedding guest.

Cupcakes · **Joined:** Sat Nov 12, 2005 12:04 am **Posts:** 3271

I can shake a man's hand who has the common sense to elope.
But I can also celebrate another couple's open bar that's within a two hour drive.

I liked idea that a friend had where he set up a virtual store and people could "buy" the intended gifts via Paypal or just simply contribute cash. It eliminated all the BS of actually having to go out and purchase, wrap and remember to bring a gift.

Elvis Fu · **Posted:** Thu Apr 05, 2012 11:38 pm

Any recs on lodging in Big Sur? I ain't sleeping outside nor in a tent, if that helps.

Cupcakes · **Joined:** Sat Nov 12, 2005 12:04 am **Posts:** 3271

Yail Bloor Wrote:

Evil Dr. K Wrote:

OK, I'll probably, wait, never, get married but even if I did I'd still find the whole idea of a wedding registry abhorrent. Why would you make your friends go out and buy off a list just cos you got married? It's like 'I'm Getting Married Therefore I Punish My Friends'.

I get that traditionally newly weds moved out of their parents houses and started a new life together in basically a bare house and it was a nice gesture for friends to contribute to the new household but that's not the case any more.

The whole modern wedding registry thing is fucking bullshit.

Again if by some miraculous set of circumstances I get married my friends only obligations will be to come to the pub and get drunk as fuck. I won't, I repeat won't, be twisting any one's arm for a fucking towel set or cutlery!

Not that I thought about it this way (but you can if it helps you to understand): You will probably almost always pay more to have someone at your wedding than you will get back in gift value. Advantage: wedding guest.

Which brings up the point: outside of your immediate family and very close friends, no one wants to be at your wedding. Most of the people that show up simply feel obligated. No matter how many free drinks you provide with your mediocre food, for the majority of your guests, it's all just one big wasted out-of-pocket expense-filled weekend stuffed full of awkward forced conversations and a hangover. It's just a really shitty bar.

50 people max.

Pro-tip: everyone hates a destination wedding.

Yail Bloor · **Posted:** Fri Apr 06, 2012 12:11 am

Jerkass Wrote:

Which brings up the point: outside of your immediate family and very close friends, no one wants to be at your wedding. People simply feel obligated. No matter how many free drinks you provide with your mediocre food, for the majority of your guests, it's all just one big wasted out-of-pocket expense-filled weekend stuffed full of awkward forced conversations and a hangover. It's just a really bad bar.

50 people max.

Pro-tip: everyone hates a destination wedding.

As often happens, your complete lack of life experience informs your opinions: Weddings, even big weddings, can be fun, have good food and not be a total drag. I've been to some shitty ones for fucking sure, but I've also been to a ton that were a blast.

Agree with you 100% on the destination wedding thing though.

Cupcakes · **Joined:** Sat Nov 12, 2005 12:04 am **Posts:** 3271

'Tevs dude. I've had fun at weddings; but none of it was ever worth all the aforementioned bullshit.

Senator LooGAR · **Posted:** Fri Apr 06, 2012 8:15 am

Elvis Fu Wrote:

Any recs on lodging in Big Sur? I ain't sleeping outside nor in a tent, if that helps.

Stay at Henry Miller's House.

And don't miss Nepenthe. I was too dumb to know it isn't priced like the view would make you think. I wonder if Harry's still around? He would know this shit.

In SF - go to City Lights Bookstore - Ferlinghetti, Beats, etc.

As for weddings being a stupid obligation - I can't really remember more than one or two I didn't want to go to. That's what having actual friends gets you, I guess. And why would ANYONE go to a store to buy ANYTHING they didn't need immediately or because they just wanted to see something in person before purchasing it? I ship all gifts for all occasions direct from whatever internet site is selling it to me.

Cupcakes · **Joined:** Sat Nov 12, 2005 12:04 am **Posts:** 3271

Lucky you. I've been to at least a dozen weddings that I have no interest in anything but the bar -- typically as a guest who knows nothing of the couple. I hear tons of people groan "Oh I have to go to a fucking wedding" when I ask them what they're doing this weekend. Clearly I'm not the only one who loathes them. And that direct shipping idea is a keeper.

Cap'n Squirrgle · **Posted:** Fri Apr 06, 2012 9:09 am

I'm watching this for Big Sur rec's. Family vacation next month, and the wife already pulled up some $200-a-night fucking yurts to sleep in on the coast. Even she balked at that one, thank jebus.

Senator LooGAR · **Posted:** Fri Apr 06, 2012 10:33 am

Jerkass Wrote:

Lucky you. I've been to at least a dozen weddings that I have no interest in anything but the bar -- typically as a guest who knows nothing of the couple. I hear tons of people groan "Oh I have to go to a fucking wedding" when I ask them what they're doing this weekend. Clearly I'm not the only one who loathes them. And that direct shipping idea is a keeper.

Amazon Prime and they get it in 2 days and can gift wrap/send with a gift receipt that does not reflect the fact that you ordered a cheap knock off.

Out of curiousity - how do you end up at that many weddings where you don't know the people? Chicks?

Yail Bloor · **Posted:** Fri Apr 06, 2012 11:10 am

Jerkass Wrote:

And that direct shipping idea is a keeper.

I'd say we had 80% of our gifts shipped to us before the wedding, very few at the event itself.

Cupcakes · **Joined:** Sat Nov 12, 2005 12:04 am **Posts:** 3271

Senator LooGAR Wrote:

Out of curiousity - how do you end up at that many weddings where you don't know the people? Chicks?

Typically. Historically, I've attended 3-4 weddings with every broad I've dated over the past few years. In fact, I have to go to my gf's sister's wedding in Chicago in a couple months. I'll know about six people there and half of those don't really like me. I can't wait.

There are an additional three wedding invites sitting on my table. I don't plan on going to any of them. Is one obligated to send a gift in that situation? I never have, just curious.

Stop Breathin' · **Posted:** Fri Apr 06, 2012 10:30 pm

You have a table?

Cupcakes · **Joined:** Sat Nov 12, 2005 12:04 am **Posts:** 3271

Stop Breathin' Wrote:

You have a table?

A carved up wooden card table stripped of its finish, stained with animal blood and mushy from the lye.

Elvis Fu · **Posted:** Fri Apr 06, 2012 10:51 pm

Cap'n Squirrgle Wrote:

I'm watching this for Big Sur rec's. Family vacation next month, and the wife already pulled up some $200-a-night fucking yurts to sleep in on the coast. Even she balked at that one, thank jebus.

After a couple emails, it looks like we are staying in a 1974 Avion trailer that's been redone: http://www.bigsurgetaway.com/vintage-avion.html

Cupcakes · **Joined:** Sat Nov 12, 2005 12:04 am **Posts:** 3271

It seems like a good idea...

Senator LooGAR · **Posted:** Sat Apr 07, 2012 11:28 am

Jerkass Wrote:

Senator LooGAR Wrote:

Out of curiousity - how do you end up at that many weddings where you don't know the people? Chicks?

Typically. Historically, I've attended 3-4 weddings with every broad I've dated over the past few years. In fact, I have to go to my gf's sister's wedding in Chicago in a couple months. I'll know about six people there and half of those don't really like me. I can't wait.

There are an additional three wedding invites sitting on my table. I don't plan on going to any of them. Is one obligated to send a gift in that situation? I never have, just curious.

I always go by the situation, you know? I usually defaulted to: if I show up, that's gift enough. If I don't I'll probably forget to send you anything. Then I started dating FEMGAR...we met at a wedding and went to like 8 that summer. I spent more on wedding gifts than I used to spend on party supplies.

Cap'n Squirrgle · **Posted:** Mon Apr 09, 2012 10:53 am

Elvis Fu Wrote:

Cap'n Squirrgle Wrote:

I'm watching this for Big Sur rec's. Family vacation next month, and the wife already pulled up some $200-a-night fucking yurts to sleep in on the coast. Even she balked at that one, thank jebus.

After a couple emails, it looks like we are staying in a 1974 Avion trailer that's been redone: http://www.bigsurgetaway.com/vintage-avion.html

We found something kinda similar, an old Airstream Bambi they will drop off for you anywhere in the area. Still sorting out the details.

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