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PostPosted: Tue May 24, 2005 12:36 am 
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Okay, so you meet a girl at a party. She's a friend of a friend's and you hit it off. You find out she doesn't have a boyfriend. She's seeing this one guy but he's been blowing her off and avoiding her for a week. So the party ends and she leaves before you get a chance to ask for a phone number or anything.

What recourse do I have? Besides asking our mutual friend, I don't see one. And that's a road I'd like to avoid.


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PostPosted: Tue May 24, 2005 12:39 am 
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Call her up tell her you had fun hanging out with her at the party. Invite said girl for a drink (alcoholic or non-).

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ask the mutual friedn to speak to her and ask if its ok, if you get her number from the mutual friend.. if she says yes to give it to you, youre in..if she says no, no direct rejection.

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PostPosted: Tue May 24, 2005 12:48 am 
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but he said he'd rather not go through the mutual friend.....

is she in the phonebook? just call her outright.


oooooorr....for what reason do you want to avoid the 'ask the mutual friend for her number' route?

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STALK HER

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Wait till she's not looking to smell your finger.

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TheTwilightKid Wrote:
ask the mutual friedn to speak to her and ask if its ok, if you get her number from the mutual friend.. if she says yes to give it to you, youre in..if she says no, no direct rejection.


i did this once and it worked out pretty well.

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No option other than the mutual friend. I don't see why this is a bad thing. Your friend wants to see you get some, right? He/she should be glad to talk you up and help you out in any way possible.

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Mutual friend option >> phone book option.

Top 3 female-approved reasons for this (in descending order):

#3 - no direct rejection for you (as TwilightKid said)
#2 - it's kind of cute/charming/flattering
#1 - she won't think you're being pushy or a stalker

another possibility... email?


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Just use your mutual friend. It's all I ever do these days. In fact I ask my female friend to go make friends with girls I like, it's the lazy guy's way of getting to know a girl.


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but the mutual friend thing could get awkward if:

a)mutual friend likes alongdrive
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b)mutual friend likes girl in question.

he voiced reservations about using the mutual friend...and these 2 things jumped to mind.

if neither of these are correct....then, by all means use the mutual friend.

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if your mutual friend is a girl, request some three-way action.


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jesus, is this high school? send her a note..

"Do you like like me?"

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__ No

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build her a cake or something

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build her a cake or something


he needs to ask himself... "Like what are my skills?"....


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Ask the friend for the number. How is this a question? Buck up, this should not have even been a question.

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On second thought forget the whole thing. Relationship or not, either way, it's doomed. Let her be somebody else's problem.

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Uhhh...the mutual friend option is the only way to go.

I guess I don't get your hesitation in having your friend help, it sounds like there's something there you aren't telling us. And frankly it sounds like the only option you do have anyway.

So your choices are as follows:

1) Ask your friend for phone number or to even feel situation out(if the guy she dated was a dick she'll either welcome you being awesome or she'll have no interest in men right now)

OR

2) Pray you bump into her randomly on the street really, really soon(chances of this happening- 1 in 1000)

OR

3) Forget you ever met her because you have no other option.


Sorry to be harsh, but that's the way it seems

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You can also cross your fingers and hope she responds to your "Wild Sides" ad in the City Paper personals.

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On second thought forget the whole thing. Relationship or not, either way, it's doomed. Let her be somebody else's problem.



or to put it more succinctly ... RUN


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I think we should all hold out for LMAO's advice.

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f4df Wrote:
epa Wrote:
build her a cake or something


he needs to ask himself... "Like what are my skills?"....


girls like a man with good skills.....like nunchucks and stuff.

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Goddammit


This is a music board.

The obvious answer:

Make her a mix. Have mutual friend deliver it. If you feel so inclined, add some schmaltzy poetry.

Hope for the best.

If that doesn't work, buy her a car.


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make it a point to hang out with the mutual friend more, in hopes of bumping into each other again.

If you don't want to wait that long or risk losing her to another guy in that time, then go thru the mutual friend. There is no harm in it.


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